Tonight I had dinner and drinks with a guy I’ve know for a while – and in a couple different incarnations - who is a solid human being and really great friend. On the drive home, I had a moment of realization: I am so lucky to have such strong, intelligent and caring men in my life.
So often, women (myself included) kvetch over the negative attributes that men bring into our lives: we cry and complain and curse and contemplate. We bond over their ability to cause us pain, frustration and general confusion. But in this moment, I am truly grateful for the wonderful men who make up a big part of my life; not only providing comfort and companionship, but also entertainment and general handiness.
From my best friend who is one of the most talented and charismatic men I have ever met; whom I speak with daily, inspires me often, and allows me to experience a more leisurely, yet exhilarating way of life that is so contrary to my natural state.
To my business partner and our superstar employee – both men and, for the record, in their 20’s and 30’s respectively – who keep me endlessly entertained and supported at work.
From my ex, a brilliant creative, who at one time, both drove me crazy and taught me the meaning of love, and now keeps residence as a permanent member of my “family.”
To my actual male family members - my dad and young brothers - who are far away but so present in my heart and a significant part of who I am.
From the comfortable, handsome intellectual who is so uncomplicated, but is always there when I need something a little more.
To the mild affair I could never have, but nevertheless remains a supportive presence.
These men are remarkably different in so many ways, but they share the similarity of being a part of my community and my heart. They have provided me an amazingly well-rounded education in the ways of the opposite sex, and have enriched my life in more ways than I can express.
I often have trouble sharing my deep affection for those closest to me, but tonight, in the most public way I know possible, I say thank you and much love.
I don’t know if these deep connections with great men are a commonality for most women, but for the good of all, I truly hope this is the case.
Let’s hear it for the boys.
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